As I was driving in the car on Tuesday I heard on the radio how recent research has claimed that babies who are breast fed for more than a month have a higher IQ than those who aren’t. I immediately found myself in a panic, counting the amount of weeks I managed to breast feed the girls before it got too much. I sighed a big sigh of relief and thought “oh phew, I managed six weeks!”…
Then I caught myself on… The pressure I put myself under to breast feed, I believe, was what triggered my feelings of postnatal depression.
I became so angry…
I recalled being at a mums and tots group and there a woman was discussing how she breast fed, and how that was ‘the best way’, throughout this discussion her eight month old son was tucking into a happy meal… Surely to give your baby ‘the best start in life’ you should be consistent throughout and not chuck a happy meal at them at the first sign of a tooth. Grrrrr!!!
How a baby is fed will not determine their intelligence, how a baby is raised by their parents, nurtured and stimulated will determine their intelligence. How a child is encouraged at school and at home will mould them into the people they will become and how they will succeed in life. Nurture over nature, I believe!
STOP making mothers feel guilty for not breast feeding. Mummy guilt is bad enough.
Whether or not a baby gets a tit in their mouth or a bottle, the one thing that TRULY matters is WHO is behind that tit or bottle.
The only thing to come out of this published research will be a lot of guilty feeling mums, a lot of new and expecting mums feeling pressured into breast feeding, and an ‘us and them’ mentality- the breast brigade vs the bottle bank!!
Calm down people, let’s just support each other no matter how we feed our babies. We’re all doing great here!